Mr. Sweetheart’s Maybe Pile

You’d think I’d know by now, after two years of getting shocking amounts of well-being from friends-and-family Zooms, that video chats can result in profound warmth! That’s what happened last Thursday night when I caught up with Mr. Sweetheart after nine long years!

I maybe should also stop being surprised at the way people I’ve loved can stay in my body! It was a very chaste catch-up (I would have to go on quite an internal journey to get to using video chat for sexytimes! But I bet I can get there.) It only took a few minutes of talking to him, for my body to remember what it was like to be tangled up with Mr. Sweetheart—I felt the heat all the way down to my spine, a long-forgotten Tantric-ish magic.

We both had breakups in May, his from a more serious, long-term relationship, but we bonded over being heartbreak twinsies. The relationship he was processing had been (maybe at her request?) monogamous, so he was antsy to get out into the poly world again. Definitely know that feeling!

His sluttily-proactive idea was to make a list of twenty people he might be able to snuggle with and just start reaching out. I was tempted to do the same, but with a 20-sided die. (Which I have because I teach math, I don’t suddenly have enough imagination to D&D!)

I tried a list, expanding it to include not just snuggles but apologies-owed and estranged friends. I got to twenty, but only about five of them were even a little bit advisable, so I’ll keep leaving my adventures to Feeld and fate. (And hoping the Cute Guy at the Car Place someday gets his act together.

I guess Mr. Sweetheart felt some of the same past/present warmth, because he asked if we could be in each other’s maybe piles. I said an unequivocal YES. He lives like 6 states away, but we’ve put monthly video chats on the calendar. I could see going to visit him and REALLY MAKING THE MOST of some summer weekend. I’ve already relaxed into his body again, so there’s lots of fun to hope for.

Best of all, he’s going to join me in my knot-learning quest! He’s already an excellent rope top (I VIVIDLY remember a REALLY good handle…) but it hadn’t occurred to him that he could be practicing on himself. I’m so pleased to be a good bad influence. Let the Summer of (Knotty) Romance proceed!