This place where you
are right now, God circled
on a map for you.
Wherever your eyes and
arms and heart can move
against the earth and
sky, the Beloved has bowed
there,
the Beloved has bowed
there knowing you were
coming.
-Hafiz
This week was the 11-year anniversary of Sweetie and me
getting together, of the night she told me, okay, she’d give it a try, and that
I would be her first partner of any kind—it’s a lot of responsibility, and I
took it, and I am so glad. She and I have had rocky times this past year, and
in some ways our relationship is still in limbo, but we have a lot to
celebrate, too.
Last Saturday was the holiday party at our regular
dungeon—just the phrase “our regular dungeon” just fills me with pride. We
missed the dinner part of the festivities because some dear friends were having
a going-away potluck, but we got there early enough that the crew was still
setting up the furniture.
Everyone looked so pretty and festive—lots of fancy red
dresses, formal kilts, shiny studded gauntlets. There were cute little glowy
candle lamps everywhere, and a Christmas tree. When we arrived, Old-Timey Guy
was shrink wrapping a girl in a red and white plastic corset.
HempRopes was there with his beautiful wife, and meeting her
made me wish that I hadn’t sworn off him—she’s strong, vivacious, and smiley,
just the kind of lady I wouldn’t mind being tied to—oh well, maybe someday.
I think my decision to swear off casual play was a good one,
though. Instead of resenting HempRopes for having a long line of ladies, I felt
happy love for the good time that they were all about to have.
Old-Timey guy asked if I would like another star mark from
him and looked taken aback when I said “I’ll think about it.” He’s still
calling me his “little girl” but I felt distinctly like a woman, and I’m
excited that I’m reserving my right to play as one.
Sweetie and I set up our scene in a triangle with the people
we love to play next to: Old-Timey Guy and Punk Rock Girl were on the St. Andrew’s
cross to our right, and Hot Switch Couple were getting their bag of tricks
ready the next kneeling bench over. We all hugged and smiled about the prospect
of being near each other.
It was one of the happiest nights of my life. Sweetie made
me feel like a rope-covered princess. She ties me to a kneeling bench and
figured out how to spank nice and firmly without hurting. I don’t always go all
the way to a subby place with her, but this time I did—I felt like I was
getting spanked inside a glowy pink cloud of well-being. As I was spacing out
to the comfy rhythms, I noticed that Punk Rock Girl was getting flogged to the
exact same beat—it was such a lovely feeling of oneness.
I knelt there giggling with joy, mostly naked in from of my
friends, just like I love to be. I am so proud of the life that Sweetie and I
have created in the last year, the way we have made a space for ourselves in
the world where we can be in love and hot and safe and in front of everybody.
Even though I’m often distracted by what’s missing from my life, I have to
admit that this new life is like a miracle.
