My blog breaks never last as long as I think they’re going
to, pals. There are always more adventures to celebrate and I can’t wait to
share them with you.
I took down the posts about it, but SG and I are on the outs
again, and I think in the long run, that’s the more loving thing. Even though
they never asked me to, I really, really, REALLY wanted to be a good girl for
the Steampunks, and that was making it hard for me to care for myself and go
forward the way I need to, and it was hurting them, too. I hope they’re
forgiving me over there.
My ass is sad about SG—after all, he was its first non-me
friend, and I thought that that phase of the project might have to be shelved
for a little while, but yesterday while I was getting some journaling done, I
felt the tingle return, that naughty spark of well-being that means it’s time
for some personal time.
I decided to make a morning of it and got all cleaned up—I
can’t believe I ever felt embarrassed or afraid about enemas, they’re so easy
and pleasant, a loving little thing to do for myself, a slightly more intimate
version of painting my nails or getting a haircut. For some reason, they make
me feel cozy and cared for.
I kind of associated the Little Metal Thing with SG, but the
pleasantness of having it in there trumped any regrets. Every part of me, body
and soul, woke up. I felt warm, special, and safe.
The other day, I was listening to this Poly Weekly episode in which Marcia Baczynski reminds us that we don’t have to push
ourselves into risky things, especially into types of play that are
triggersome. She was talking more about opening up relationships than about sex
itself, but I think it applies. She encouraged listeners to find smaller,
slower, less goal-driven ways to experiment, things that don’t stress us out,
so that we can give ourselves the space to feel the emotions that come up, so
that we can have more compassion for ourselves.
I say all of that to say this: I had such a lovely moment with
myself yesterday. After I took out the Little Metal Thing and started playing
with the Too Big Butt Plug (excellent for wriggling around on, you may
remember) I felt my heart speed up a little bit, in a scared way. I backed off
from the little bit of hurt that was happening, took a few moments, and
breathed with my hand on my heart until it calmed down. This is what it feels
like to adventure in a way that is kind to myself (and others!) and I am so, so
proud.
For my body adventures, no more struggle. Struggle isn’t the
same as work, which of course I love. It’s fighting the tide, trying to make
myself do things because I feel like I should, trying to make myself fit when I
don’t, and it’s been the source of all the worst things. As I let go of the things
that make me miserable and let myself be carried forward, I feel so much more
in touch with my better self, more able to just sit back and let the tide of
awesome wash over me.
